Becoming a big brother or sister? How to gently prepare your child for a new baby

A new baby is on the way. A special time full of preparation and change. But it isn't just parents whose lives are about to shift. For your child a new adventure is starting too: becoming a big brother or big sister.

Many parents start looking for a personalized book for a big brother or big sister: a story where their child recognizes themselves and can gently practise the new role.

For some children that feels exciting straight away. For others it takes a bit of getting used to. Mum has less energy, everyone is talking about the baby, and soon attention will need to be shared.

That's exactly why it helps to gently bring your child along in what's coming. In a calm, positive and recognizable way. A personalized book about becoming a big brother or sister can really help with that.

Why preparation matters

Children love clarity and recognition. Especially young children understand big changes better when they are explained step by step.

When you talk together about the baby and what will change, it can help with:

• less anxiety around the baby's arrival
• a stronger sense of involvement
• feeling proud of the new role as big brother or sister
• space to ask questions and share feelings
• an easier transition to the new family situation

Why a book works so well

Children process a lot through stories. In a book they see situations that look like their own life. That makes something new feel less scary.

In a story about becoming a big brother or sister, your child can recognize:

• mum with a baby in her belly
• helping to get ready
• waiting for the birth
• being gentle around the baby
• growing into the new role together

And the best part: through a story it doesn't feel like an "explanation", it feels like a cozy moment together on the couch.

A regular book is nice. But a personalized book often makes an even bigger impression. Imagine your own child being the main character. Not a random boy or girl, but with their own name, a look that resembles your child, recognizable details from your family and a story that fits your situation.

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That makes the story personal and relatable. Children often listen extra carefully when the story really feels like it's about them.

When does this kind of book work well?

A personalized book is especially valuable when your child cannot yet fully picture the change. It makes the baby more concrete and gives words to what is going to happen.

This kind of book often works well when:

• your child starts asking questions about the baby or mum's belly
• your child is sensitive to changes in attention, rhythm, or routines
• you want to introduce the role of big brother or big sister in a calm and positive way
• you want to practise being gentle, waiting, helping, and sharing together
• you want a personal keepsake from the period before the baby arrives

Example: Remy becomes a big brother

At BoekjesAtelier we make books, for example, where the story begins while mum is still pregnant.

In the example book, Remy is the main character. He gets ready for the baby's arrival: he gives kisses on mum's belly, practises talking softly, and picks out a cuddly toy for the baby.

And once the baby is here, Remy grows into his new role. He tiptoes through the hallway, helps comfort the baby with a soft toy, and stands proudly next to the pram.

What matters to us: Remy does not have to be only happy. A good book can also leave room for getting used to things, questions, and mixed feelings. Some children feel proud and jealous. Happy and unsure. Curious and a little upset. Through the story, you can talk about that gently:

• "Do you ever feel a bit nervous about it too?"
• "What seems fun about being a big brother?"
• "Shall we help out together later?"

That way reading together also becomes a moment of connection. Below you can flip through the full example book in which Remy becomes a big brother.

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Want to make a personalized book yourself?

Want to lovingly prepare your child for the arrival of a little brother or sister?

At BoekjesAtelier you create a personal book in which your child plays the leading role as a big brother or big sister. A lovely gift for now and a keepsake for later.